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In the trenches- a post for the guys on AFF!
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f you want to comment below, I welcome your feedback. I only ask that you try and keep it positive and constructive.
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A lot of women here will not respond if she feels she is not your type instead of you being her’s. If you come off in your profile as being so perfect, she will think she could not possibly be up to those standards. Too good looking, too smart, too debonaire. The Barbie syndrome comes into play. The body, age, looks, etc. How could he want me? Look at him. So many, men and women, miss out here due to fear of approach. It is not as easy as the site wants you to think it is.
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Here's the rub. If a guy is so "amazing," (not you, speaking generic here) why doesn't he have a special person in his life already? That's how a lot of women think. If we're just a snowbunny seeking bbc, there's a TON of dick to choose from. If we're just a low-self-esteem-wannabe-sub, there's a TON of faux doms to choose from. If we enjoy drama and mindreading, there's a TON of men willing to give us what we need. If we want what every other woman wants, an attractive regular guy who wants to be with us, doesn't have anger/attachment/babymama issues, can get it up and keep it up in the playpen, has a life of his own and is a guy that our friends like.... and a guy comes along who seems to meet that, our first inclination is (sadly) to think "what's wrong with him that another woman hasn't caught him yet." Obviously, newly divorced men and married cheating men don't count in that equation but single men in their 30s who want to date are much like the spinsters of last century, something must be wrong if they haven't matched up yet. Again, know I'm not speaking of you, just general blahblahblahing.
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Provocative and delightful. Although, I'm probably provoked and delighted differently than most. But, I have great respect for all the time and energy it took putting structure to this, so no judgment or snark here. Tons I'm just itching to say, but then I'd have to be fair and start cutting myself for all the fluffed-up nonsense I write. Square and on the level, I'll focus on just two points. * In this post and the one just below, you keep talking about this as work, using all the terms of a wholesale shoe distributor. Putting the work in. Not worth the work. Pound the pavement. Out-work all the others. Data trends. Gender ratios. Behavioral studies. Holy smokes, man! Love, sex and stickiness - this is the stuff of poetry, songs and squishy novels. If I start treating AyyFF like it's a job, rest assured I'm going to work overtime pounding that pavement until I find a woman merciful enough to smother me with a pillow two minutes after we're still glowing from our first naked "sales call." You mention finding balance between work and leisure outside of AYYFF. I'm thinking that same work/fun balance needs to visit. More fluffy bunnies; less inventories and sales quotas. * My second point calls for two steps back and a refocus. Spot the paradox. It's a post for guys and lists out all the ways that women seem to be latching on to all the bad boys and losers, ignoring the "quality guys". I'll let others decide quality, but I'm in the door with the guy-part. I know that because all my undies have doors in them. Point-by-point I follow it all, and in the end you're telling me that quality guys need to keep pounding the pavement. Why? It doesn't work. You're a quality guy, and if I read through each paragraph wearing my chickfocals, I'd say you're a catch. But it's still not working. I could scribble out something real thoughtful and send it to everyone with tits in my area code, but I'd be wasting my time, and you stand before me as Exhibit A. Unless it's something else. Nothing I feel like resolving tonight or ever. + I said two points, and they was them, but I lied. One other quick thing that will make me toss around in my sleep if I don't put a flame to it. Can we somehow make the term "quality guy" faraway gone? Gives me the willies. Such a magnificent dude to illustrate an important point, can we at least find him a better name? Something like Shane, maybe. Exudes a frontier sturdiness and sun-washed good looks. Anything but "quality guy." I'm wide open on this. That's all. Thanks for posting.
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first thing i would say is change your photo. it's offputting. it's metrosexual in tone and comes off snooty. you are articulate and amusing....both to your advantage but the edge of entitlement is a bit much. just sayin' and i'm old enough to be your mama so pay attention. You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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use the biker pic You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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